I have had to deal very closely with a Nacrissist over the past decade, beginning with being drawn in, then used, and dumped as a piece of rubbish. Most recently, I have had to deal with trying to space away from that person for my own health, and the health of my family. I have tried to keep my kids involved with that person because they are family, but at the same time, I have tried to keep them just seperate enough that my kids are not groomed into becoming narcissists themselves.
The Channel is Surviving Narcissism, and can be found here:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCIELB1mz8wMKIhB6DCmTBlw
I have found that one of the traps a healthy person can fall into when dealing with a narcissist is taking on the same traits for themselves as a part of coping. For example, a narcissist will go to others and point out flaws in their victim, saying that the third party does not know the full story about that person. Then, when the victim is seeking help, or validation, they are essentially left doing the same thing to the narcissist. I have got to wonder how the third party distinguishes?
One of the first steps I could suggest it either paying for therapy, or just watch the videos on the channel I suggested above, as that will help to identify the traits of the narcissist, and give validation to the victim of the narcissist.
When looking for validation, remember that if yyou are able to be self aware, and if you are able to be introspective, you are already acting like a healthy person. You are a victim of a narcissist, not someone who necissarily has a victim mentality, and there is a difference. But use that introspection and watch the videos, and you will find all the validation you need. If you don’t, then serious thought should be given to professional intervention.
Kelsey J Bacon